Anger doesn’t make you weak. Avoiding responsibility does.
If anger is showing up in ways you regret, the question isn’t why. It’s what you’re prepared to do about it. Some men come here still trying to understand what’s happening. Others already know anger is the problem and want it dealt with properly. If you’re in the second group, this page isn’t the end point. I run a structured Anger Management Programme for men who are ready to take responsibility for their reactions and bring their behaviour back under control. It’s a defined programme with a clear start and end. Delivered one-to-one or in a small group. No excuses. No drift.
Anger is a response, not a personality trait
Anger isn’t random. It shows up when you feel challenged, ignored, trapped, or disrespected. For many men, it’s learned early and reinforced over time. It becomes the default response under pressure. That doesn’t make it acceptable. But it does make it predictable. And anything predictable can be changed.
The pattern most men recognise.
Anger rarely looks dramatic at first. It starts with tension. Then tone. Then a reaction that goes further than intended. Afterwards comes regret, damage control, and the promise it won’t happen again. This cycle repeats not because you don’t care, but because the response is automatic. Awareness matters. But awareness on its own doesn’t stop the pattern.
Not your fault. Still your responsibility.
You didn’t choose how this pattern started. But you are responsible for whether it continues. Blame keeps men stuck. Responsibility gives them options. This is where many men stall. They understand the problem but don’t act on it. And nothing changes.
When understanding isn’t enough,
If you’re still trying to make sense of anger, this page may be enough for now. If you already know anger is costing you and you want to bring it under control properly, the next step is structured work. I run a defined Anger Management Programme designed for men who are ready to take responsibility and change how they respond under pressure.
Take responsibility at your own pace
Some men need time to reflect. Others reach a point where reflection isn’t enough. When you’re ready to move from understanding to control, the programme is there.