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<h2>Introduction – The Truth Behind Being “Nice”</h2><figure id="figure-thqp17zql4mhes6p2i"><img id="thqp17zql4mhes6p2i" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2192979063/photo/judges-gavel-in-courtroom-legal-trial-and-law-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=CFphjgALUQmtYizLkN-XOD5UGFQ7xwtpDwVJKjwEc74=" alt="Judges gavel in courtroom legal trial and law background" title="Judges gavel in courtroom legal trial and law background" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2192979063/photo/judges-gavel-in-courtroom-legal-trial-and-law-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=CFphjgALUQmtYizLkN-XOD5UGFQ7xwtpDwVJKjwEc74=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>You have been told to be nice your whole life. Keep the peace. Don’t upset anyone. Smile and stay agreeable. But here is what most people never realise. Niceness often comes from fear, not goodness.</p><p>You smile when you want to speak. You agree when you want to say no. You walk away tight in your chest, replaying what you wish you had said. That is not kindness. That is emotional self-suppression.</p><p>Being nice protects your image. Being kind protects your connection. One keeps you small. The other builds strength.</p><p>This article explains why the “niceness habit” keeps your nervous system stuck in stress and how to shift into genuine kindness — calm, clear, and powerful.</p><h2>The Hidden Cost of Niceness</h2><figure id="figure-6341ympumhes9i0t" class=""><img id="6341ympumhes9i0t" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1367679452/photo/reduce-cost.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=DyE3qIuKbFws0n3daA2nMl2edN3u_ijTcvDMvhiaLMc=" alt="Reduce Cost" title="Reduce Cost" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1367679452/photo/reduce-cost.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=DyE3qIuKbFws0n3daA2nMl2edN3u_ijTcvDMvhiaLMc=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Niceness might look calm on the surface, but your body knows it is fake. Every time you hold back truth to stay liked, your brain interprets it as social danger. The amygdala fires, cortisol rises, and your body enters low-grade fight or flight.</p><p>At first, you think you are keeping the peace. Over time, the constant suppression leaves you anxious, tense, and disconnected from yourself.</p><p>Niceness is not emotional intelligence. It is self-protection through compliance. And it drains the very confidence you are trying to build.</p><p><strong><em>Power Move:</em></strong><br><em>Pause before you agree. If the thought of saying yes makes your stomach tighten, that is your nervous system telling you to stop.</em></p><h2>Kindness Works Differently in the Brain</h2><figure id="figure-55k5mw08ugmhesevow" class=""><img id="55k5mw08ugmhesevow" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2203229510/photo/man-giving-presentation-on-brain-implants.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=KvgiKppYLsjY6MzCn01qKSE8g1AYyuKJbmkLy4XmuhM=" alt="Man Giving Presentation on Brain Implants" title="Man Giving Presentation on Brain Implants" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2203229510/photo/man-giving-presentation-on-brain-implants.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=KvgiKppYLsjY6MzCn01qKSE8g1AYyuKJbmkLy4XmuhM=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Kindness activates the ventral vagal system, the part of the nervous system responsible for safety and connection. When you choose honesty with care, your body releases oxytocin, lowers stress hormones, and steadies your breathing.</p><p>Kindness does not mean pleasing everyone. It means staying connected through truth. It is the calm strength to handle discomfort without losing compassion.</p><p>That balance of truth and empathy is what creates trust. It keeps relationships real and your energy clean.</p><p><strong>Coach’s Insight:</strong><br><em>Kindness is not soft. It is controlled strength. It takes more courage to be honest than to stay silent.</em></p><h2>From Image to Integrity</h2><figure id="figure-7cgb7s9szmhovm23l" class=""><img id="7cgb7s9szmhovm23l" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1644342489/photo/ai-law-or-ai-ethics-business-concept-artificial-intelligence-developing-codes-compliance.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=weGPor6xMpHFq9H_5v3Bg3VuNqGq3oQRoL8_96etmbY=" alt="AI Law or AI ethics business concept. Artificial intelligence developing codes. Compliance, Business policy target in digital transformation and responsibility for guarding against unintended bias." title="AI Law or AI ethics business concept. Artificial intelligence developing codes. Compliance, Business policy target in digital transformation and responsibility for guarding against unintended bias." class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1644342489/photo/ai-law-or-ai-ethics-business-concept-artificial-intelligence-developing-codes-compliance.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=weGPor6xMpHFq9H_5v3Bg3VuNqGq3oQRoL8_96etmbY=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;"></figure><p>Niceness says, “I will do whatever it takes to be accepted.”<br>Kindness says, “I will be real, even if it is uncomfortable.”</p><p>Niceness avoids conflict and hides emotion. Kindness faces conflict calmly and speaks clearly. Niceness keeps you liked but uneasy. Kindness makes you respected and relaxed.</p><p>One protects the surface. The other protects the connection beneath it.</p><p>When you stop performing and start showing up real, your nervous system relaxes. You feel grounded instead of defensive. That is emotional leadership.</p><p><strong>Reality Check:</strong><br><em>You cannot build peace by avoiding tension. You build peace by handling truth well.</em></p><h2>Five Shifts from Nice to Kind</h2><figure id="figure-jb6dpw82e1mhovpm2f" class=""><img id="jb6dpw82e1mhovpm2f" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1015852056/photo/five-ancient-pillars-with-sunset-sky-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=hq-yWQ0ab-lOQm8yw5mu2fxVSzctfcPzwmhPU_KRxrY=" alt="Five ancient pillars with sunset sky background." title="Five ancient pillars with sunset sky background." class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1015852056/photo/five-ancient-pillars-with-sunset-sky-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=hq-yWQ0ab-lOQm8yw5mu2fxVSzctfcPzwmhPU_KRxrY=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p><strong><em>Recognise the freeze.</em></strong><br>Notice when you smile or agree automatically. That is not harmony, it is fear.<br><strong><em>Breathe before reacting.</em></strong><br>A slow exhale activates the vagus nerve, calming the body so you can respond, not perform.<br><strong><em>Speak truth with care.</em></strong><br>“I understand what you need, but I cannot do that today.” Calm honesty is kindness in action.<br><strong><em>Redefine success.</em></strong><br>Stop measuring your worth by how liked you are. Measure it by how real you were.<br><strong><em>Practise self-kindness first.</em></strong><br>You cannot offer real empathy while betraying your own needs.</p><p><strong>Power Move:</strong><br><em>Every act of truth rewires your brain for confidence. The more you practise it, the safer honesty feels.</em></p><h2>The Calm That Follows Kindness</h2><figure id="figure-k01xpyg5z5mhovt5y6" class=""><img id="k01xpyg5z5mhovt5y6" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2158371894/photo/inspirational-quote.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=YZftrzbrU5G_EKF5ZMVVoIhvpAi_gdGz-pdalmA-7Uk=" alt="Inspirational Quote" title="Inspirational Quote" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2158371894/photo/inspirational-quote.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=YZftrzbrU5G_EKF5ZMVVoIhvpAi_gdGz-pdalmA-7Uk=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>When you lead with truth, your nervous system feels safe. You breathe deeper. You think clearer. People around you sense it. They trust you more because your words match your energy.</p><p>Kindness creates calm. It reduces the background noise of guilt and resentment that niceness always leaves behind. It gives you energy instead of draining it.</p><p><strong>Coach’s Insight:</strong><br><em>Kindness is emotional alignment. When your words, values, and actions match, peace follows naturally.</em></p><h2>Conclusion – Choose Connection Over Compliance</h2><figure id="figure-js59p03pkemhovviq7" class=""><img id="js59p03pkemhovviq7" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1557118048/photo/a-concept-that-expresses-the-hyper-connected-society-of-modern-society-by-connecting-people.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=pXjxo1cXg2IE7icM_urE8TCd8xcVpGjKQWEFIqNdzxc=" alt="A concept that expresses the hyper-connected society of modern society by connecting people icons with lines, 3d rendering" title="A concept that expresses the hyper-connected society of modern society by connecting people icons with lines, 3d rendering" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1557118048/photo/a-concept-that-expresses-the-hyper-connected-society-of-modern-society-by-connecting-people.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=pXjxo1cXg2IE7icM_urE8TCd8xcVpGjKQWEFIqNdzxc=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Niceness is fear pretending to be virtue. Kindness is honesty powered by care.</p><p>If you want to live with emotional freedom, stop protecting your image and start protecting connection. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Stay kind while you do it.</p><p>The goal is not to be liked by everyone. It is to respect yourself enough to live truthfully. That is what creates strength, stability, and peace that lasts.</p><h2>FAQ Section</h2><figure id="figure-hacdicpm8dmhovwyzc" class=""><img id="hacdicpm8dmhovwyzc" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" alt="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" title="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h3>Q1: Is it wrong to be nice?</h3><p>No, but if it costs you peace, it is not working. Replace automatic niceness with honest kindness.</p><h3>Q2: Can kindness still be firm?</h3><p>Yes. Firm boundaries delivered calmly create safety for everyone involved.</p><h3>Q3: How do I stop people-pleasing?</h3><p>Start small. Speak one truth a day. Your body will learn that honesty is safe.</p><h3>Q4: What if honesty upsets someone?</h3><p>Short-term discomfort is worth long-term trust. Clarity always strengthens connection.</p><h3>Q5: Can coaching help with this?</h3><p>Yes. A skilled coach can help you retrain your nervous system for calm confidence and teach you how to communicate truthfully without guilt or fear.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>About the Author</strong><br><em>Written by <strong>Steve Jones, Genesis Therapy</strong>, a coach specialising in stress resilience and brain-based strategies. Helping people from all walks of life rewire overthinking, manage anxiety, and build the confidence to handle everyday pressure with strength and calm.</em></p>

Being Nice is Fear. Being Kind, Well That’s Real Power.

<h2>Introduction – The Happiness Illusion</h2><figure id="figure-6gj9q88xomgovfdoc"><img id="6gj9q88xomgovfdoc" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/251sBWHFUoZbBxknov0mIH1rsuAslyUh3dTxhVkPmBPPlBAJlLgNY9dm0bepAJma.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/251sBWHFUoZbBxknov0mIH1rsuAslyUh3dTxhVkPmBPPlBAJlLgNY9dm0bepAJma.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;"></figure><p>She sat in her car at the end of another long day, scrolling through a feed of smiling faces. Everyone looked happier, healthier, and more at peace. Someone had just finished a marathon. Another posted their morning gratitude ritual. One friend had quit her job to “follow joy” and was glowing in every photo.</p><p>She had done everything the books and podcasts said to do. Meditation. Gratitude journaling. Clean eating. Yet a dull heaviness still sat in her chest, quiet but constant. She whispered a thought that many people have, but few admit: What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just be happy?</p><p>That moment captures the paradox of modern happiness. We are surrounded by advice on how to find joy, yet many people feel anxious, empty, or disconnected. The more we chase happiness, the harder it seems to hold.</p><p>This article explores why that happens. It uncovers how the constant pursuit of happiness can backfire, how toxic positivity damages emotional wellbeing, and how to build a life that values balance and meaning over endless cheerfulness.</p><h2>When Happiness Becomes a Task</h2><figure id="figure-kctdj2cnramgovlmaw"><img id="kctdj2cnramgovlmaw" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1by6UL04dLiDjEXntpsxluNoZEqFkckq5GjDF56KvB9vWfyR32FFIx2E2t36EUni.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1by6UL04dLiDjEXntpsxluNoZEqFkckq5GjDF56KvB9vWfyR32FFIx2E2t36EUni.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>For many people, happiness has become another item on the to-do list. Be grateful. Think positive. Manifest success. Stay motivated. Yet somehow, the harder we try, the less satisfied we feel.</p><p>Psychologists describe this as the hedonic treadmill. The brain’s reward system quickly adapts to new experiences, meaning every emotional high fades sooner than expected. A new job, car, or relationship might lift you up for a while, but within weeks your mood settles back to its usual level. It’s not personal failure; it’s biology. The brain was built to notice change, not sustain bliss.</p><p>When we treat happiness like a goal to achieve, we begin to measure our emotional life in unrealistic ways. If we feel sad, we assume something must be wrong. If joy fades, we believe we’ve lost control. The chase becomes endless, and guilt creeps in whenever we fall short.</p><p><em><strong>Pro Tip:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Stop aiming for constant highs. Instead, notice small, genuine moments that carry meaning. A walk, a kind word, or a quiet laugh. The brain registers these as steady emotional nourishment, not fleeting hits.</strong></em></p><h2>The Rise of Toxic Positivity</h2><figure id="figure-1mpbat6zjmgovmdpm"><img id="1mpbat6zjmgovmdpm" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/5CabRG31TW9FkAquMeLfw0LovlgRJcg36vG2HNUaqnIBITfQxxEMIvMnGrRfQxjK.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/5CabRG31TW9FkAquMeLfw0LovlgRJcg36vG2HNUaqnIBITfQxxEMIvMnGrRfQxjK.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Modern life is flooded with messages that tell us to “look on the bright side.” “Good vibes only.” “Happiness is a choice.” On the surface, it sounds encouraging, but underneath, something more damaging is at work.</p><p>Toxic positivity happens when we deny or dismiss painful emotions in the name of optimism. It’s the moment you tell a friend “everything happens for a reason” instead of sitting with their pain. It’s the moment you feel low and instantly pressure yourself to cheer up.</p><p>Research on emotional regulation shows that suppressing emotions doesn’t erase them. It pushes them deeper into the body. Cortisol rises, tension builds, and the mind becomes restless. Over time, the body carries the cost of all that pretending.</p><p>This emotional mismatch is known as emotional dissonance. You act fine, but inside you’re not. Over time, it wears down mental energy and creates a quiet sense of disconnection.</p><p>Reality Check:<br>Avoiding discomfort doesn’t create happiness. It only postpones healing. The healthiest people are not those who feel good all the time, but those who allow feelings to move through them safely.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Happiness is not proof of worth. Feeling low does not mean failure. Emotions are data, not enemies. Let them speak before you rush to silence them.</strong></em></p><h2>The Brain’s Balance System</h2><figure id="figure-2dowofnpnmgovodl3"><img id="2dowofnpnmgovodl3" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/18b6xok6tSjSyP5Lf1CVeaWcR9ZmfkUMxECVPcUDKOjldK6TBaltHFbvzqhjVqM1.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/18b6xok6tSjSyP5Lf1CVeaWcR9ZmfkUMxECVPcUDKOjldK6TBaltHFbvzqhjVqM1.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>The human brain is designed for balance, not permanent joy. It constantly seeks homeostasis, a state of internal stability. When you experience intense highs or deep lows, your body and brain naturally pull you back towards equilibrium.</p><p>Serotonin plays a key role in this process. It helps stabilise mood, counteracting the sharp spikes of dopamine that come from temporary pleasure. The prefrontal cortex also plays its part, helping you understand and label what you feel so you can respond wisely instead of reacting impulsively.</p><p>People who practise emotional awareness have stronger regulation networks in the brain. When they feel anger, sadness, or fear, they can name it clearly, which calms the amygdala, the brain’s fear centre, and helps them recover faster.</p><p><em><strong>Pro Tip:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Try the “name it to tame it” approach. When you feel off, say it out loud. “I feel tired.” “I feel disappointed.” “I feel anxious.” Naming your emotion lowers its intensity and brings your prefrontal cortex back online.</strong></em></p><h2>The Cost of Constant Cheerfulness</h2><figure id="figure-wvrs2fbkxmmgovottg"><img id="wvrs2fbkxmmgovottg" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2187826531/photo/happy-clown-adjusts-rainbow-bow-tie-vibrant-yellow-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=qg6UEqZA1ibWhYiT3yAZ_Nna7jEhJz2S5wkrdDIaYNg=" alt="Happy clown adjusts rainbow bow tie, vibrant yellow background." title="Happy clown adjusts rainbow bow tie, vibrant yellow background." class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2187826531/photo/happy-clown-adjusts-rainbow-bow-tie-vibrant-yellow-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=qg6UEqZA1ibWhYiT3yAZ_Nna7jEhJz2S5wkrdDIaYNg=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Many people feel pressure to perform happiness. Workplaces expect positivity. Families encourage smiles. Social media rewards the appearance of joy. The result is a culture where people fake optimism to fit in.</p><p>This performance comes at a cost. Emotional labour, the effort of managing feelings to meet expectations, drains energy fast. Studies show that people who constantly suppress emotion are more likely to burn out, withdraw socially, and struggle with anxiety or sleep issues.</p><p>Pretending to be happy also dulls your emotional range. When you numb sadness, you accidentally numb joy. The entire emotional spectrum becomes muted, and life begins to feel flat.</p><p>Reality Check:<br>You don’t owe the world a cheerful version of yourself. Realness is what truly connects us, not relentless positivity.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight:</strong></em><br><em><strong>You don’t need to shine all the time. Being genuine gives others permission to be human too. That is far more powerful than pretending to be perfect.</strong></em></p><h2>Meaning Over Mood</h2><figure id="figure-r8fr0mdq9bmgovpp2h"><img id="r8fr0mdq9bmgovpp2h" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1fRURHpxN5yPtcvImYhRUzKroHTZwL4dsq4r6W0csopb1Rg3mAxU8vpSxJpuaOab.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1fRURHpxN5yPtcvImYhRUzKroHTZwL4dsq4r6W0csopb1Rg3mAxU8vpSxJpuaOab.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Let’s return to the woman in her car. Over time, she begins to notice something. The days that feel good aren’t necessarily the ones filled with excitement or smiles. They’re the days that feel right — when she helps a colleague, listens to a friend, or takes a quiet moment to breathe. It’s not joy she’s craving; it’s meaning.</p><p>Psychologists call this difference hedonic happiness versus eudaimonic happiness. Hedonic happiness is about pleasure and comfort. Eudaimonic happiness is about purpose, growth, and contribution. One fades quickly; the other builds a deep sense of fulfilment.</p><p>Research from positive psychology shows that meaning-focused individuals report higher life satisfaction and lower stress over time. They still feel negative emotions, but those feelings make sense in context. Pain has purpose. Struggle becomes part of growth.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Stop asking “Am I happy?” and start asking “Am I aligned?” Alignment means your actions match your values. When you live from that place, peace becomes stronger than mood.</strong></em></p><h2>Redefining Emotional Wellbeing</h2><figure id="figure-5j9le81n29mgovqnfp"><img id="5j9le81n29mgovqnfp" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2186723977/photo/hand-choosing-happy-smile-face-wooden-block-good-feedback-rating-and-positive-customer-review.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=pfoYAACPEsYrcim5MN1Ao989D1H3slIhHluIKzMejKg=" alt="Hand choosing happy smile face wooden block, good feedback rating and positive customer review, mental health assessment, child wellness,world mental health day, think positive, compliment day concept" title="Hand choosing happy smile face wooden block, good feedback rating and positive customer review, mental health assessment, child wellness,world mental health day, think positive, compliment day concept" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2186723977/photo/hand-choosing-happy-smile-face-wooden-block-good-feedback-rating-and-positive-customer-review.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=pfoYAACPEsYrcim5MN1Ao989D1H3slIhHluIKzMejKg=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>The goal isn’t to feel happy all the time. The goal is to build emotional resilience, the ability to experience a full range of feelings without being overwhelmed by them.</p><p>Here are practical ways to shift from happiness-chasing to balance-building:</p><ul><li>Normalise emotional lows. Sadness, anger, and fear are part of being alive. Accept them as teachers, not threats.</li><li>Practise self-compassion. Speak to yourself with kindness, especially when you feel unmotivated or low.</li><li>Replace “positive thinking” with “accurate thinking.” Optimism helps, but honesty heals. Face reality before trying to fix it.</li><li>Schedule rest. Your emotional system needs downtime. Stillness allows the brain to process and reset.</li><li>Focus on what matters. Ask, “What did I learn today?” instead of “Was today good?” It shifts your attention from chasing pleasure to finding purpose.<br></li></ul><p><em><strong>Pro Tip:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Keep a “truth journal.” Each night, write one honest line about how you really felt that day. No judgement. Over time, this builds self-awareness and quiet confidence.</strong></em></p><p>Reality Check:<br>You can’t force joy. But you can build a life steady enough to welcome it when it comes, and to let it pass when it goes.</p><h2>Conclusion – The Freedom in Feeling</h2><figure id="figure-8652ppuctgmgovstyb"><img id="8652ppuctgmgovstyb" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2152658308/photo/male-engineer-palm-disapproving-with-no-hand-sign-while-standing-in-the-red-lighted-room.jpg?b=1&s=2048x2048&w=0&k=20&c=wGji4fY_AKNlkSExwKqE1KTx8pfTlRLdDPPpE0A70rA=" alt="Male Engineer palm Disapproving With No Hand Sign While Standing In The red lighted room" title="Male Engineer palm Disapproving With No Hand Sign While Standing In The red lighted room" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionX="null" data-positionY="null" data-fullWidth="false"/></figure><p>The dark side of happiness isn’t sadness; it’s denial.<br>Chasing happiness turns life into a performance. It makes emotions something to control rather than understand. But when you stop running and start listening, you realise that happiness is just one part of a bigger emotional story.</p><p>Real emotional wellbeing isn’t about smiling through everything. It’s about presence. It’s the ability to feel, recover, and stay kind to yourself through it all.</p><p>This week, when you catch yourself thinking, “I should be happier,” take a pause. Ask instead, “What is this feeling trying to tell me?” You might discover that peace was never hiding in the happiness you were chasing, but in the honesty you were avoiding.</p><p><em><strong>Final Thought</strong></em><br><em><strong>Happiness isn’t something to capture. It’s something that follows when you live truthfully and let yourself feel.</strong></em></p><h2>FAQ Section</h2><figure id="figure-n2jwtbcr7mmgovtjvk"><img id="n2jwtbcr7mmgovtjvk" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" alt="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" title="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h3>Q1: Is it wrong to want happiness?</h3><p>No. Wanting happiness is natural. The problem starts when it becomes a demand. Focus on meaning, growth, and connection, and happiness will follow naturally.</p><h3>Q2: How can I tell if I’m stuck in toxic positivity?</h3><p>If you often dismiss your feelings with “it could be worse” or avoid difficult conversations to stay “positive,” you may be caught in it.</p><h3>Q3: Can sadness actually help me?</h3><p>Yes. Sadness slows you down and helps you reflect. It deepens empathy and strengthens emotional bonds.</p><h3>Q4: How can I stay motivated if I’m not chasing happiness?</h3><p>Build motivation around values, not emotion. Do what matters, not just what feels good. The satisfaction of integrity lasts longer than excitement.</p><h3>Q5: What’s a simple daily practice for emotional balance?</h3><p>Spend two minutes noticing your real emotional state without trying to change it. Awareness alone creates calm.</p><h3>Q6: Can therapy or coaching help with this shift?</h3><p>Definitely. A good coach or therapist can teach practical tools for emotional regulation, self-compassion, and mindset growth, which are the real foundations of emotional wellbeing.</p><p>&nbsp;<br></p><p><strong>About the Author</strong><br><em>Written by <strong>Steve Jones, Genesis Therapy</strong>, a coach specialising in stress resilience and brain-based strategies. Helping people from all walks of life rewire overthinking, manage anxiety, and build the confidence to handle everyday pressure with strength and calm.</em></p>

The Dark Side of Happiness: Why Chasing It Can Make You Miserable

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<h2>Introduction: The Brain’s Reset Button</h2><figure id="figure-2rgs6hw585mgfakv61"><img id="2rgs6hw585mgfakv61" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1412209798/photo/system-reset-push-button.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=PvzPUeI51HooomGLbxyhoTsbC7u0heewUPskWGnQFUs=" alt="System Reset Push Button" title="System Reset Push Button" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1412209798/photo/system-reset-push-button.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=PvzPUeI51HooomGLbxyhoTsbC7u0heewUPskWGnQFUs=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined undefined;"></figure><p>Awe does something no quick-fix mindset tool can. It changes the brain itself.<br>When you stand before something vast, whether a storm rolling in, a piece of music that stops you mid-thought, or the quiet silence inside a cathedral, the brain’s default mode network, the system that fuels self-focus and rumination, temporarily quiets.<br>In its place, the medial prefrontal cortex relaxes, and dopamine pathways light up. You feel smaller, but in a good way. Perspective widens. Stress levels drop. Time slows.</p><p>Scientists at UC Berkeley and Stanford have called awe one of the most powerful emotional resets we can experience. Unlike joy or excitement, awe dismantles the ego’s grip. It tells the nervous system, “You are part of something larger.”</p><p>This is where growth begins.</p><p>In this article, you will learn how awe works inside the brain, where to find it every day, and how those moments can reduce anxiety, build resilience, and reshape the way you see the world.</p><h2>What Awe Does Inside the Brain</h2><figure id="figure-kafu0d9kammgfal4jc"><img id="kafu0d9kammgfal4jc" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/811227238/photo/human-hand-and-brain-3d-rendering.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=SneiEN37yZuxTROxHMdreIhusDlIQ_k2AzZ4O4EQ4X4=" alt="human hand and brain, 3D rendering" title="human hand and brain, 3D rendering" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/811227238/photo/human-hand-and-brain-3d-rendering.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=SneiEN37yZuxTROxHMdreIhusDlIQ_k2AzZ4O4EQ4X4=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>The experience of awe activates both the parasympathetic nervous system (our calm response) and the brain’s reward centres. At first glance, that seems contradictory, calm and thrill at once, but that is exactly what makes awe unique.</p><p>Researchers using fMRI imaging have found that awe reduces activity in the brain’s self-referential areas, especially the medial prefrontal cortex. This is the part responsible for internal chatter, the looping voice that replays worries, regrets, or self-judgement. When that area quiets, space opens for clarity, curiosity, and calm attention.</p><p>In simple terms, awe helps you step outside your own noise. The nervous system slows. Breathing deepens. Heart rate variability increases, a physiological marker linked to emotional resilience.</p><p><em><strong>Pro Tip: When stress feels unrelenting, deliberately seek something that dwarfs your perspective, such as a wide view, a piece of music that moves you, or a moment of silence in nature. The brain reads vastness as safety, not threat.</strong></em></p><h2>Awe and the Stress Response</h2><figure id="figure-q35c7zl0r8mgfaladd"><img id="q35c7zl0r8mgfaladd" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2213270840/photo/healthcare-and-medical-concept-sign-written-with-cortisol.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=E8vJaqoEWdN5_8JZ2UwR0PnCYLbiui_E9wnfv3BBe0Q=" alt="Healthcare and medical concept. Sign written with 'Cortisol'" title="Healthcare and medical concept. Sign written with 'Cortisol'" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2213270840/photo/healthcare-and-medical-concept-sign-written-with-cortisol.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=E8vJaqoEWdN5_8JZ2UwR0PnCYLbiui_E9wnfv3BBe0Q=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Stress thrives on control. Awe thrives on surrender.<br>When you experience awe, cortisol, the body’s main stress hormone, decreases. In one 2021 study from the University of Toronto, participants who took “awe walks” for just fifteen minutes a day over eight weeks reported 30 per cent less anxiety and higher daily satisfaction.</p><p>The brain interprets awe as a form of safety because it reminds us we are not at the centre of everything. This perspective shift is profound for anyone living in a high-stress or self-critical state. It challenges the illusion that everything depends on you alone.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight: When you step into awe, you train your nervous system to release control. That moment of humility does not weaken you, it resets you. It is how leaders, creators, and athletes find calm under pressure.</strong></em></p><h2>Everyday Sources of Awe</h2><figure id="figure-8lm6grbgzpmgfalfk1"><img id="8lm6grbgzpmgfalfk1" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2156468864/photo/lighthouse-in-storm-at-night.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=Zni0TI6Ou-5JcWrPkzw3l8j9buSBro8tOkBpgQZG5HQ=" alt="Lighthouse In Storm At Night" title="Lighthouse In Storm At Night" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2156468864/photo/lighthouse-in-storm-at-night.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=Zni0TI6Ou-5JcWrPkzw3l8j9buSBro8tOkBpgQZG5HQ=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Awe is not limited to mountaintops or sacred places. You can find it in smaller, daily moments if you know where to look.</p><p>Researchers have identified five reliable categories of awe triggers:</p><p>Nature – sunsets, storms, oceans, vast landscapes.<br>Music and Art – sound, beauty, and pattern that evoke emotion beyond words.<br>Faith and Spiritual Practice – connection to something transcendent.<br>Human Achievement – witnessing courage, compassion, or brilliance.<br>Big Ideas – realising the scale of the universe, or the complexity of life itself.<br>The power of these experiences lies not in their scale but in how they make you feel small and expanded at the same time.</p><p><em><strong>Pro Tip: Build an “awe habit” by choosing one micro-moment each day to notice something vast or beautiful. The more you train your attention on what amazes you, the more your stress chemistry begins to shift.</strong></em></p><h2>How Awe Builds Gratitude and Connection</h2><figure id="figure-9gxzbm8lzmgfall14"><img id="9gxzbm8lzmgfall14" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2231246954/photo/education-hands-and-students-with-fist-bump-at-university-for-test-pass-exam-results-or.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=ZvQ0MTbk-Y86T6S-TPsDKxdM4Mk7XidTYBNJR8yqEkc=" alt="Education, hands and students with fist bump at university for test pass, exam results or support. Achievement, college and people with gesture on campus for assignment goal and scholarship approval" title="Education, hands and students with fist bump at university for test pass, exam results or support. Achievement, college and people with gesture on campus for assignment goal and scholarship approval" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2231246954/photo/education-hands-and-students-with-fist-bump-at-university-for-test-pass-exam-results-or.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=ZvQ0MTbk-Y86T6S-TPsDKxdM4Mk7XidTYBNJR8yqEkc=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Awe naturally increases gratitude because it shifts focus from self to system. It reminds us that we are part of a much larger network of people, nature, and purpose.</p><p>When awe quiets the ego, gratitude rushes in. That emotional sequence has been mapped through oxytocin release, the bonding hormone, and dopamine, the reward chemical. Together, they create a neurochemical blend that fosters warmth, trust, and a sense of shared humanity.</p><p>This is why people often cry at concerts or while watching acts of kindness. The same neurochemistry that reduces anxiety also deepens empathy.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight: Awe does not just help you feel better, it helps you belong. When you expand awareness beyond yourself, you recover from emotional isolation, the silent fuel of modern stress.</strong></em></p><h2>Awe as a Mindset Training Tool</h2><figure id="figure-jjufeyomlemgfalqo1"><img id="jjufeyomlemgfalqo1" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2216009926/photo/growth-mindset-fixed-mindset.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=4g97w59zpBbQHO2SqjfEsk3mkyvoBzTgBHKyEPFiYyQ=" alt="Growth Mindset Fixed Mindset" title="Growth Mindset Fixed Mindset" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2216009926/photo/growth-mindset-fixed-mindset.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=4g97w59zpBbQHO2SqjfEsk3mkyvoBzTgBHKyEPFiYyQ=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>You can train the brain to access awe more easily. Just as athletes train endurance, you can build awe capacity through repeated exposure.</p><p>Practical tools include:</p><ul><li>Awe journaling: Write down one moment each day that made you feel wonder or humility.</li><li>Awe breathing: Slow your breath while observing something vast or intricate, like the sky or a candle flame.</li><li>Awe walks: Move slowly through a natural space, deliberately paying attention to colour, light, and sound.</li><li>Story immersion: Read or watch content that highlights human courage, scientific discovery, or beauty.</li></ul><p>Each method rewires attention. Over time, the brain learns that awe is accessible, not accidental.</p><p><em><strong>Pro Tip: Treat awe like exercise. Small, frequent doses work better than rare extremes. Consistent awe strengthens emotional regulation and helps the body reset more efficiently after stress.</strong></em></p><h2>Why Awe Matters for Resilience and Growth</h2><figure id="figure-x9xkdkzcthmgfalwei"><img id="x9xkdkzcthmgfalwei" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2176075759/photo/cape-eagle-owl-bubo-capensis.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=NRJv8gNjrT7iLzMAsiiD4PglpvSZyZ6sxNbMruSujiA=" alt="Cape Eagle Owl, bubo capensis" title="Cape Eagle Owl, bubo capensis" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2176075759/photo/cape-eagle-owl-bubo-capensis.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=NRJv8gNjrT7iLzMAsiiD4PglpvSZyZ6sxNbMruSujiA=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>Resilience is not just about bouncing back; it is about returning wiser. Awe helps make that possible.</p><p>By broadening perspective, awe rewrites how we interpret challenge. A setback stops feeling like a personal failure and begins to look like part of a larger pattern. This subtle shift is linked to what psychologists call cognitive reappraisal – the ability to reinterpret experiences in a constructive light.</p><p>In resilience research, individuals who experience awe regularly show higher tolerance for uncertainty and faster recovery from emotional strain. They think more creatively and act more generously.</p><p><em><strong>Coach’s Insight: Awe does not remove pain, it reframes it. It helps you see your current struggle as one small part of a much bigger story, and that is where strength takes root.</strong></em></p><h2>Conclusion: The Bigger Picture Inside You</h2><figure id="figure-js2jbw63xmmgfam2o3"><img id="js2jbw63xmmgfam2o3" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/683981288/photo/man-hand-writing-see-the-big-picture.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=BH2wg7sV9aEuo-QMMsPkWbKZQS2T8HYHquDSCNrQFc4=" alt="Man Hand writing See The Big Picture" title="Man Hand writing See The Big Picture" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/683981288/photo/man-hand-writing-see-the-big-picture.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=BH2wg7sV9aEuo-QMMsPkWbKZQS2T8HYHquDSCNrQFc4=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><p>When awe enters the mind, anxiety loosens its grip. The nervous system finds balance, gratitude increases, and perspective deepens. Whether through nature, music, or human connection, these moments act as small psychological resets, pulling you from self-focus into a sense of belonging.</p><p>In a world wired for stress and comparison, awe reminds us of proportion. You are part of something immense. That is not a reason to feel small, it is a reason to breathe easier.</p><p><em><strong>Call to Action:</strong></em><br><em><strong>Take one “awe pause” today. Stop what you are doing for thirty seconds and look up, at the sky, a tree, a piece of art, or a face, anything that carries beauty or mystery. Let yourself feel how vast life really is.</strong></em></p><p>&nbsp;<br>Final Thought<br>Awe does not make life bigger. It reminds you that it already is.</p><h2>FAQs</h2><figure id="figure-0vb1koi2kmgfambeh" class=""><img id="0vb1koi2kmgfambeh" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" alt="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" title="Question Marks Written Speech Bubbles On Gray Background" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-sm md:rounded-md lg:rounded-lg" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2225436571/photo/question-marks-written-speech-bubbles-on-gray-background.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=fwQAyheAITwpHX2CDi9bgOV55NpXk0u2_p9uthaotck=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h3>Q1. Is awe the same as mindfulness?</h3><p>Not exactly. Mindfulness is awareness of the present moment. Awe is the emotional response when that moment feels vast, beautiful, or deeply connected to something beyond you.</p><h3>Q2. Can awe really reduce anxiety?</h3><p>Yes. Studies show awe lowers cortisol levels and increases parasympathetic activity, which calms the body’s stress response.</p><h3>Q3. What if I cannot get out into nature often?</h3><p>Awe can come from music, art, or even watching stories of courage or compassion. The brain responds to perceived vastness, not just physical space.</p><h3>Q4. How long does the effect of awe last?</h3><p>Even a brief moment of awe can shift mood and reduce rumination for hours. Regular exposure builds longer-lasting resilience.</p><h3>Q5. Is awe a spiritual experience?</h3><p>It can be, but it does not have to be religious. Awe is about connection, humility, and perspective, feelings that transcend belief systems.</p><h3>Q6. How can I bring more awe into my daily routine?</h3><p>Try starting or ending each day with a moment of quiet observation, such as sunrise, sunset, music, or reflection. The goal is not to chase awe but to notice it.</p><p>&nbsp;<br></p><p><strong>About the Author</strong><br><em>Written by <strong>Steve Jones, Genesis Therapy</strong>, a coach specialising in stress resilience and brain-based strategies. Helping people from all walks of life rewire overthinking, manage anxiety, and build the confidence to handle everyday pressure with strength and calm.</em></p>

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